For Anal: Ina Wave vs. Loki Wave

I have often said that the sex toy industry is quite often too gender-specific for its own good. Case in point, of the 8 sex toys I have reviewed for my Nude Dude Review, 4 - half of them are marketed to females. Yet, my male body got great enough pleasure from them that by the end of the video, I had stripped down to some very skimpy underwear.

This brings me to the target toys of this article. The Ina Wave, a rabbit vibrator marketed to females, and; The Loki Wave, a vibrating prostate massager marketed to males.

By my working at a sex shop when these 2 sex toys came out, I got my hands on both of them. Now, many would expect that as a male, I would favor the Loki Wave over the Ina Wave. Well, you would be quite wrong.

I actually prefer the Ina Wave. In fact, I have even said to co-workers and customers that to my body, the Loki Wave feels like a nice sex toy, but the Ina Wave...makes me feel like I have an actual guest.

Perhaps the slight difference in shape of the area that lays on my taint is a factor. I definitely know that the width of that part is a factor for me.

For when I and/or a playmate plays with my taint, I prefer a finger. Approximately the size of the external stimulator on the Ina Wave, which also reaches the right length along my taint. Meanwhile, the external stimulator on the Loki Wave is more suitable for someone who prefers fingers (plural), and at a longer length for their external stimulation, be they male or female. I know this from a discussion with a former female co-worker who said that she preferred the Loki Wave over the Ina Wave for her vaginal pleasure.

Also, when placed side by side, I found the Ina Wave can go a tad deeper inside than the Loki Wave. So that slighter depth plus that motion might very well land on my prostate in a way to be more stimulating. 

Even though this article has been a long time coming, I hope that the next time you consider buying one of the two, give the other a look. Because the one marketed to bodies of the opposite gender might actually be the one you're looking for. 

Trust me on this. Because remember, I have a history of discovering such things. 😉

Enter, Thrust, Throb, Cream + backstory

One beauty of having your own laptop keep in the solitude of your room is that you can be as much of a pervert about it as you want to be. Namely, through your wallpaper. For this is a screenshot of the wallpaper I had on my computer at the time my song "Enter, Thrust, Throb, Cream" came to mind.

It's a still from a NextDoor Studios scene in which Michael DelRay tops Scotty Zee. So that's Scotty Zee cute butt.

For me, sex is art. So while this photo does turn me on, I don't stop and jerk off to this pic. I turn on my laptop see the nature-created artistry of a cock inside a nice wanting ass, and get to work.

However, on one particular day, I got up to take a break from a project. In doing so, I closed the web browser and all open windows, leaving me to see just that wallpaper. Suddenly, a subconscious thought came to me. I can tell it was my subconscious because as it reached my conscious mind, its volume slowly increased. It was 4 words said rhythmically describing what was going on in the picture, and the result. I knew that because while I couldn't instantly figure out what the middle 2 words were, I knew the first word was "Enter" and the last was "Cream" - 2 words I use very often when describing the process of sex.

As I thought more about it, I realized the other 2 words were to describe actions that fascinate me during sex. Knowing how I've always been fascinated how penetrative sex is a simple thrusting back and forth that brings one so much euphoric physical pleasure, it should be no surprise how the next word was "Thrust". Followed by the next fascinating thing during sex is the various times a guy's cock will throb as he's getting closer and closer to orgasm and ejaculation. Making the other word "Throb".

With the words now set in their rhythm, next came describing each word's part in sex from the entering of the penis to the ejaculation(s) that often concludes it. And this is the end result a cappella:

SEX.... Never Lose Its Fascination

Sex has always been an interesting subject to me.

Looking back to being a grade school child when I learned exactly what sex is; then starting to masturbate, which gave me some idea of how great sex feels to the body; then as I got older, even as a virgin, learning sex was a beautiful and powerful thing. Such a powerful thing that it can create life. Then once I finally experienced it for myself, I further understood that power. Seeing how while I already knew that when done right, sex can create life in a physical state, I also saw how it can create life in a spiritual state as well. But I additionally saw how when done wrong, it can be just as easily end those states of life. So the older I get, the more I understand how we have to respect that power and not take it lightly. And I try to educate people to do the same.

Just the outward simplicity of sex... simple back and forth motions. Causing all those inward complexities of sensations throughout the body, effecting the mind, and changing lives. ALL OF THAT IS FASCINATING.

And as long as there is life to continue, it will never cease being fascinating. Especially among us human being. So I wrote a poem to talk about the never ending fascination that is sex. Enjoy.

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Sex Toy Review: Thruster Mini

I recently bought the Thruster Mini by Velvet CoCK. I must admit that the accordion like neck made me a bit hesitant. This hesitation was to no fault of Velvet CoCK's designing. It was actually because of a previous purchase I made of an anal sex toy with a similar design.

For that other toy also had an accordion design in the neck, which in me caused a pinching of my rectal walls. An unkind sensation that I said in my review that I submitted to The Pleasure Chest would happen to anyone with a rectum tight enough to engulf the entire shape of anything entered into it. With that said, what made me give the Thruster Mini a try was the fact that unlike that other toy, the thrusting part is not meant to be put inside the body.

The Thruster Mini is made of silicone, so it will not harbor bacteria after cleaning, and can only be used with water-based and silicone-based lubricants. Do not use silicone-based lubes on a silicone toy. For it will destroy the toy, thereby void the warranty. It is also water-resistant, which means it can be taken into the shower, but it cannot be submerged into a tub.

The insertable part of the Thruster Mini's shaft is 5" long. A length which is quite comparable to the length of the highly respected Aneros' prostate massagers. Add to that the ability for the shaft to be bent up to 30º, I became hopeful that the Thruster Mini would do that thrusting towards the prostate. And it did not disappoint.

For in the XTube video below, about 3 minutes into it, I assume the missionary position. What you of course can't see is that due to the angle at which I held the Liberator Bon Bon that the Thruster Mini is in, the Thruster Mini did in fact stimulate my prostate. Hence the quivering orgasm seem by the end of the video. So if it was able to be curved to hit my prostate, there is no doubt it can be curved to hit a female's G-spot.

LeNair Xavier Gets Thrusted powered by XTube

With a present retail value of $149, the Thruster Mini is by no means a cheap sex toy. However, I do recommend it for both males and females. Anyway, it does say "Unisex" on the box. Making this one case where a sex toy company did not lie about the usefulness of their product, and that gets many stars in my book.

A Sexually Geeky's Why I ♥ Sex

Dick....

To mouth....

To pussy ….

Or ass!

One of the ways I describe myself in the pic below is “Sexually geeky”. But what exactly makes me sexually geeky?

I believe it’s my realizing how the simple aforementioned body parts are beautiful, and do amazing things on their own. However, when you combine 2 of these body parts together, the things they can do brought together are not just amazing. They actually become phenomenal. 

Perhaps you never thought about it. So let's look at these body parts one by one, and see their initial place and purpose, and what their pleasuring purpose evolves into. 

Dick 

A dick is amazing on its own. To me, even when flaccid it's beautiful. Perhaps that beauty comes from knowing how when it's flaccid, all it's good for is to pee and fondle. However, all it takes is someone to trigger a male's sexual arousal (perhaps by fondling), and that small, soft appendage suddenly grows multiple times longer and wider, losing that softness. So it's newly formed hardness can point at a target for penetration. 

The fascination continues when you think of how the back and forth of penetration, or being ridden by a person (or sex toy) causes a build up of sensations and semen. Making the male orgasm comparable to the eruption of a volcano, but with the sexiness of consent, it's the best volcano to experience. 

And whether the sex is for procreation or just an intimate connection to another human being, knowing that the semen, this seemingly harmless milky white substance that springs from a male's penis that initially seems to only be a sign that a male orgasm has transpired, proves itself to be much more when you remember how semen carry sperm, which create life. So it's stimulating to realize that male has (because of you) expelled the very thing that helps to create every human being you see. 

So these instances makes a dick show that initially, it's just interesting. However, when it meets its target, its abilities along with that of its target, makes it grow in physical size as well as interest.

And you have to admit that to be true regardless of your sexual orientation. For it’s why many lesbians or predominately lesbian bisexuals have stayed in heterosexual relationships, honestly claiming to be sexually satisfied, despite realizing their homo- or bisexuality. 

Mouth 

Ever since you came out of your mother's womb, the mouth has been used as a means to eat, then express yourself by speaking, and held contorting the lips a certain way to convey emotion. At no point thinking that at some point, using it to kiss would make it become part of your activity after you learn about "the birds and the bees". And an even greater shock to learn that as you become more advanced in your sex play that your mouth could become a powerful tool in foreplay with your playmate/lover/spouse. Such a powerful tool that a blowjob (when given right) feels so incredibly good that males of various cultures have for centuries tried to make themselves entitled to it simply because they have a dick. 

Or in some cases, using the mouth to perform fellatio, cunnilingus, or rimming is used in place of vaginal or anal sex for one reason or another.

With that in mind, perhaps this is why so many can be bad at oral sex, or even bad at just kissing. These people have never allowed themselves to evolve in realizing that a mouth is good for more than just speaking, tasting, and eating food. They need to learn you can taste and eat off your sex partner as well. Thereby making the "need" for flavored lubes become obsolete. For you won't need or want anything to change the sexy flavor of your sex partner's skin. 

  

Pussy 

What a vagina is called going back and forth depending on its purpose at that the moment is already fascinating. That fascination grows even more once you describe those abilities it has in that particular purpose. 

Such as how when a female gets her period, and when she is giving birth, it is called its scientific name, vagina. However, when a woman becomes horny, or is in the midst of curing her horniness by masturbation and/or sex, that scientific term "vagina" morphs into numerous words that some consider to be dirty and scandalous. Inciting shame in the sexually repressed. Meanwhile, a word-perv like myself can easily get turned on by such words, and with no shame about it. And the most common of those words is "pussy". 

After addressing that fascinating fact, let's talk about what a sweet pussy can do. It was likely thought of as a pussy when the male put his penis in it, stretching to accommodate its entry. Then again a vagina, where it became the canal in a female's body by which a microscopic seed of life expelled from that dick was put in, making it not have to stayed stretched. Then usually 9 months later, it stretches wide enough to introduce to the world that microscopic seed that has over those 9 months formed into a human being. Then it goes back to being soft flesh – becoming a pussy when it welcomes being filled again by a finger, penis or sex toy for pleasure. And when a penis is allowed to enter, the pussy embraces it. Making it become a means to give pleasure to a male, as well as herself. Thereby making the physical and spiritual connection that is sex. 

And again, this is what one must admit regardless of orientation. It’s why many gay or predominately gay bisexuals stay in heterosexual relationships. Because like a dick, a pussy can feel so good that you procrastinate in acknowledging your true self. The most common way that you can deny it is if you’ve never tried it.  

Ass 

Like most children, I was unaware of the many ways sex can happen. Even though I experienced an orgasm by jerking off, I thought in some strange way, gay males were able to achieve orgasm by being dick to dick. Once I got older and realized gay male sex was primarily anal sex, I then had an inner-conflict. 

For my Christian upbringing was saying "Ewwww". Meanwhile, my gayness needing to be released was curious to know how was this possible. How was it possible for a body orifice that I was for almost 2 decades taught was "exit only", and is only entered as a form of rape, is actually entered willingly by some? And not only that. But it is entered willingly because pleasure can be given from that entry? 

Ever since I came to hear of this possibility, anal pleasure has been something I craved to experience. It went from playing around my hole with my finger. To actually entering it with my finger. More and more, it made me want a cock inside it. 

Now, that I know of that pleasure, while like the typical male, my cock craves penetrating an adult human orifice, but when I bottom,… I’m an insatiable power bottom.

I’m fascinated by how once a skilled guy enters my ass, I’m able to withstand every thrust until he’s unable to enter me again. Even if it means his dick being inside me for over an hour. And I marvel at seeing the slightest hunger for anal penetration in others. 

I probably would have never come to these realizations about sex had it not been for me overcoming the sexual repression imposed upon me. Making this another testament to the saying that “every dark cloud has a silver lining”. And part of that silver lining is seeing sex and all of its parts as beautiful. Not ugly. Not shameful. So all of my writings and videos on the matter of sex is to pass those realizations, and joy from them on to you.

Sex Toy Review: We-Vibe Verge

Before I start, my apologies to We-Vibe. For this review of their Verge cockring is long overdue in response to their gratitude for my Nude Dude Review of the We-Vibe Nova.

The Verge cockring by We-Vibe is a vibrating cockring primarily meant to stimulate a male-bodied person’s perineum (a.k.a. taint) during sex.

To accommodate most bodies for this purpose, the Verge is quite wide, and not as stretchy as its brother cockring from We-Vibe, the Pivot. However, if the person is thick enough, then the Verge may also help with the purpose most cockrings are made for. That purpose being to make the blood flowing into the penis to cause an erection not leave so easily.

The beauty of this cockring is that while it’s marketed primarily to stimulate the perineum, it can be turned and placed in different ways to make it stimulate more than just the taint. It can also stimulate other parts in that area instead of the taint on the wearer, and/or stimulate parts of the sex partner of the wearer.

  

Let’s look at different ways one can wear a Verge. All of which I have tried with a playmate and can guarantee the pleasure given.

This is the marketed way to wear the We-Vibe Verge:

Worn this way, it stimulates the base of the cock, and since it is so wide, it will rock back and forth during penetration or while the wearer is being ridden by their partner. With each pressure against it from either causing the vibration to hit more against the taint. During deeper penetrations, the wearer's partner may feel the vibration along the upper-half of their vaginal lips or anus, depending on which part and gender is embracing the wearer's member.

Wearing the We-Vibe Verge this way makes it great for both vaginal and anal sex:

For vaginal sex, the wearer will of course feel their chosen vibration around the penis and testicles. Meanwhile, the part shown in the above pic that in the marketed position stimulates the taint would in this case stimulate the clitoris.

Wearing the Verge this way for anal sex will give that same vibration to the crotch while vibrating near the bottom's anus like all of these positions. The addition to using the Verge in this way is that in sexual positions like (or similar to) doggy-style it can stimulate the bottom's ass crack, while in positions like missionary it can stimulate the bottom's taint instead of that of the wearer's.

This last position, like the initial one mentioned, is very much for the wearer's pleasure.

For wearing the Verge this way cups and tickles the wearer's testicles from behind during penetration, or while he's being ridden by his partner.


The We-Vibe Verge is USB rechargeable. It is made of silicone, so it is non-porous, and can be easily cleaned with soap and water or an anti-bacterial cleaner. With that it is also waterproof, so any of the ways to wear it mentioned or that you can think of can also be done in the tub or shower. The Verge also comes with 10 vibration patterns. The intensity of each pattern can be easily controlled by downloading the We-Connect app and syncing the Verge to it. Another plus to using the We-Connect app is that with it, you can create your own vibration pattern.

Like with my playmates, I live by the old saying "variety is the spice of life". With that said, for its variety in vibration patterns, ways in can be worn, and targets of stimulation, if you're not really looking for the traditional purpose for a cockring, then I definitely give a high rating to the We-Vibe Verge.