Wednesday, February 26, 2014

The Beauty of O Face

Many of you don't know this, but I'm in absolute lust with Jamie Bell.

Of course seeing his body was in "The Eagle", or finally seeing him bare-assed in "Hallam Foe" added to the fantasy, and why I find him HOT.

But when I saw him featured in a poster for Lars von Trier's upcoming movie, "Nymphomaniac, Part 1" with an orgasm face, I thought to myself how even during an orgasm, he's still HOT. That's when I caught myself....

"...even during an orgasm"?

Why should that moment of seeing Jamie Bell making an orgasm face be a moment in which I initially think that he would have any less sex appeal? In fact, with any sexual fantasy one has, shouldn't the sight of their orgasm (or "O") face better the fantasy along? That got me to thinking how (at least in American sexuality) we're taught that the orgasm face is ugly, and should not be seen or admired. It's probably one of the reasons why we're taught to turn out the lights during sex. It also got me thinking about what my goal is with my erotic poetry. Hence this Facebook update from February 15th:

Such being the case is why I've already talked about loving the sight of sweat, and also cum. And I will soon be talking about cum again.

But for now, it's time to show my love for the O face.

Sunday, February 23, 2014

Office Chain

My online chats and hook-ups, as well as adventures at sex parties and the backroom at the NYC bar, The Cock, have definitely given me a great deal of insight in people's psyche. And one sad fact I have repeatedly found was guys saying that they don't get out much because they're always working. This explains the sexual aggression I see that is based in desperation.

Well, people need to prioritize, and make a decision. Are you going to have a life worth living, opening yourselves up to finding someone truly worthy of saying you're committed to? OR are you going to let your job wear you down, and settle for someone who simply tolerate because they're either getting just as worn down, or mooching off of the finances from you being worn down?

Make a decision, because the clock is ticking, and so is your heart...But for how long?

Thursday, February 20, 2014

Who Am I To You?

You know that moment when you feel one (or more) of your friends has one foot in the grave, and another on a banana peel. For them not being there for you like you have repeatedly been a listening ear and offered to be there for them for their events, through their illnesses, and/or addiction(s). Well, those are the people this poem is addressed to. So it is not just one person in particular. In fact, you could be reading this right now. So I've been pushed to that point where I needed to ask...

If you feel that you have been pushed to that point, feel free to share the video, or share/download the audio I uploaded to my Soundcloud account, and pass it along to the guilty party.

For whether you use your own words or mine, this problem in your life won't become a fixed problem until you take a step to address it.

Monday, February 3, 2014

Once In My Ass - Be 100% Pleasure, 0%Pain

Since my coming out and becoming sexually active 12 years ago, too many gay males have talked about pain during anal sex as if it is an inescapable common.

I find this to be incredibly irresponsible.
For not only is it coming from gay porn showing bottoms wincing in pain, then expected to orgasm and ejaculate after. Not only was it coming from gay males who have been around the block. But it was also written in gay publications, including sex instruction books. Therefore, educating newly sexually active gay males with this falsehood that will in turn damage their bodies.

And yes, I said "falsehood". For over the last decade, when I decide to bottom, my rules that have made me a much desired bottom are:
1)Lube - This should require no explanation
2)Desire - you wanting his dick (and no one else's) just that bad, and;
3)Relaxation - because part of what makes you want him so much is you trusting him enough to take your pleasure into account while he pleasures himself by being inside you.

For me, since my being a big advocate of bottoms doing Kegels make me have such a tight hole, this is achieved by allowing the only pain I might experience to be that of the cock's initial entry into my ass. If that happens, I tell him to pull out, and try again. For after that 1st try, I've learned exactly how much I need to relax my hole so that my top can 1)get in me, and 2)feel a snug fit once inside of me without his dick being choked. Though this need to figure out his size is of course alleviated if you're in a long term relationship, sometimes my single self doesn't even need my top to pull out. Either way, my asshole's embrace of my top's cock gives him his pleasure, and with all of the nerve endings lining the rectum, me when I bottom gets pleasure as well from that point on. With that being the case, I now know that any pain I feel is because of his incompetence and selfishness as a lover/playmate. Unfortunately, too many bottoms and versatile guys cannot say the same.

A top long and rhythmic enough to massage the bottom's prostate can be an added bonus. Keywords being "rhythmic" and "massage" because with the concept of "bigger is better" repeatedly drilled into our heads by porn and other media, some well-endowed guys don't understand the concept of "rhythm". Meanwhile, too many bottoms accept the messy fuck that comes with it. That messy fuck being sex with a top who is a citizen of Rhythm-less Nation who instead bangs the prostate. I must say this because all male's bodies are different, so believe it or not, not every guy wants their prostate massaged or touched at all.

In the end (no pun intended), it is all a matter of knowing your body by teaching and learning your body.

Many uneducated and shameful gay males use poppers as a means to numb themselves to the aforementioned uncalled for pain of anal sex. Now, besides the fact that poppers are a chemical that slowly but surely kills your brain cells. Here's more proof to how many are being bullshitted into believing their "need" for poppers. For if poppers are supposed to be huffed so that bottoms can take in a dick easier,... then why the fuck are blowjob recipients and tops using it???!!!

This is  the part where most people would say "I'm sorry, but...", but the truth is I make no apologies for finding it inexcusable for anyone to say that they "need" poppers, especially a top. And keep in mind that this stance comes from me, someone who has been double-penetrated popper-free, and still maintaining a tight hole. Anyway, in my experience, anyone using poppers (especially a top) is very likely doing other drugs as well. And since drugs are for the sake of escapism, whether they admit it or not, it seems that the shame over gay sex still lingers. For there's no intelligent argument you can give me to use poppers when (anal or vaginal) sex done right has a great enough high all its own.

Bottom line is if the anal sex you're having hurts, then either you, your playmate, or both of you don't know what you're doing. So whoever is at fault needs to put their ego aside, and learn to get it right. And with the male ego being as fragile as it is, let me remind you that having to learn does not make you less of a man. Ignoring the fact that you need to learn does. For it makes you just another overgrown child having sex. When in fact, at least in regards to sex, taking the time to learn makes you a man PERIOD.

With all that said, I hope this gives you some good advice. For I would like people who have anal sex to actually like the sex they're having. And that means without feeling the need to take in or on your body any kind of chemical that can do damage in the long run. Be well. :-) 

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