Like You - See All Gays As Sexual Equals

There have been enough instances in which my medium to dark-complexioned self will see a white or light-skinned guy check me out, look like they want to talk to me, or just fuck and be my top, but never make a move. However, they have no problem approaching a white or light-skinned guy to become their top, or approach a medium to dark-skinned guy to be his bottom.

Another instance I have seen often is a white or light-skinned guy who claims to be completely versatile or a versatile bottom, and while he might seem to be open to playing with guys of various colors/ethnicities, his urge to top never seems to surface with medium to dark-complexioned males. Instead, his urge to top only happens with white and light-skinned males.

These are definite displays within sexual racism.

Sexual racism is not just saying, "I'm not into <insert color/ethnicity here>". It is also limiting a person of a certain color/ethnicity to being only one specific sexual role. Such as the porn-induced idea that if a medium to dark-complexioned black male is to have sex with a white or light-complexioned person, that medium to dark-skinned guy can only be a top.

Also, the idea says that black males within that hue must be aggressive in their topping. Aggressive in a way that to the sane eye borders on sexual brutality and rape. A style that is a sexualization of white guilt demanding punishment. So if it's in porn today, then that means the porn producers and directors are problematic creatures in the mix. And the performers regardless of color are also problematic. Prove every bit as to why I think of most porn actors as a past poem states, "Fuckable Body,..Unlovable Soul".

I know some are quick to say that there are more blacks bottoming in porn now. Yes, there are, but not many. Nor do they have a variety of looks like their white counterparts. And before I continue, take note:

The few porn scenes that you see of blacks bottoming would have never come to be if I didn't speak up about it during my time doing studio-based porn under the name "Tré Xavier", as I pointed out in an article on my "Calling Out Ass Holes" Tumblr . In short, there would be no them if there was no me. 

So I started needed conversations then, and I am starting needed conversations now.

While I did write that article and see the slight changes, it hasn't changed the overwhelming racist sexual expectations of many white and light-skinned males enough. Like most forms of racism, it is so indoctrinated into all of our minds that most people of every color don't realize they're exemplifying it. That includes the black males playing the roles of the overly aggressive.

In most possible sexual encounters, I am still expected to be a top to a white/light person. Never mind the fact that my bubbly ass makes me much more desirable as a bottom than my proportionate dick does as a top.

Still, white/light-complexioned guys, (even when they are over 6 feet tall) come to my 5'6" 145 -160 lbs. frame having me being their top be their initial ass-umption. Meanwhile, a white/light-skinned male with the same height and weight and front and back endowments is either negotiated with about their position, or immediately assumed to be a bottom.

If you have problems with the white guy being assumed to be a bottom, then you are missing the point. For the point is at least there is multiple choice of how a white/light-skinned guy is approached. I, as a medium to dark-skinned Black man, don't get that same multiple choice. In any case, it's a clear sign that there is some racial profiling about medium to dark-skinned black males with their sexuality, and it needs to be addressed.

Of course that needed talk won't happen when the ignorance of many white/light-skinned guys is so obvious around us. It is shown in them doing studio-based porn. It is shown in the porn they do to show on Twitter, Chaturbate, OnlyFans, and the like. And it is shown by those not doing any kind of porn at all.

If you think I'm wrong, and are ready to give the prostituting stereotypical gay porn actor a pass by saying that he was paid to do that, then explain his OnlyFans, JustForFans, 4MyFans, etc.! If a white/light-skinned guy does studio-based porn as well as porn on those fansites, you practically never see him top a medium to dark-complexioned male on those fansites. What is so telling of how brainwashed and racist they actually are is the fact that the purpose of those sites for them is to do things without the puppet strings of a studio-based porn producer and director. Yet, there they are. Still under the puppet strings. Being another white/light whimpy, wincing bottom over the black dick that has sold out to yet another white person's desire to fetishize them.

With that said, just because you're a white guy doing 1 or 2 scenes for NoirMale, your run back to your all-white world still exposes you are a racist. OR because you have signed up to be the latest token black male topping white boys for CockyBoys, you're still a sellout and part of this problem. Neither scenario (or one like it) exonerates any guy of any color as to how much they are another lump of feces floating around in a septic tank. Thereby further exasperating this problematic imagery.

And yes, as much as the gay porn industry tries to deny accountability for how we gay males see each other sexually, I still beg to differ and cite porn as both a teacher and indicator. Based on the facts I am presenting here, disgustingly more so, teacher.  

This is why when we speak of "not being into" a person of a certain ethnicity or color, we must ask ourselves if our feeling that way is naturally us as an individual, or if something outside of our nature influenced that definition of beauty. White entitlement and the spoiled brat mindset it enables causes many white males to refuse to do that pause and look within. Hence why they are the quickest to call their racism "preference".

And colorism being a branch of racism that makes the gay community like Pre-Civil Rights Movement America entices many light-skinned people of color to play along for acceptance.

Now, black males are by no means exonerated from blame in this problem. After all, the black porn actors (past and present) in such interracial scenes, and the black gays who heed to the call of such white/light males to play what I call the "gorilla nigger" are willing participants. I am proud to say that I am not one of those black guys. I have probably lost most of the white/light guys I've dated because of it. If so, their loss will one day be a real man's gain.

Hence the need for this poem. We are about to head into the year 2021. So by now we should all be seen more as equals in all ways, and that includes sexually. Yet we are not, and that need to stop TODAY.

For Anal: Ina Wave vs. Loki Wave

I have often said that the sex toy industry is quite often too gender-specific for its own good. Case in point, of the 8 sex toys I have reviewed for my Nude Dude Review, 4 - half of them are marketed to females. Yet, my male body got great enough pleasure from them that by the end of the video, I had stripped down to some very skimpy underwear.

This brings me to the target toys of this article. The Ina Wave, a rabbit vibrator marketed to females, and; The Loki Wave, a vibrating prostate massager marketed to males.

By my working at a sex shop when these 2 sex toys came out, I got my hands on both of them. Now, many would expect that as a male, I would favor the Loki Wave over the Ina Wave. Well, you would be quite wrong.

I actually prefer the Ina Wave. In fact, I have even said to co-workers and customers that to my body, the Loki Wave feels like a nice sex toy, but the Ina Wave...makes me feel like I have an actual guest.

Perhaps the slight difference in shape of the area that lays on my taint is a factor. I definitely know that the width of that part is a factor for me.

For when I and/or a playmate plays with my taint, I prefer a finger. Approximately the size of the external stimulator on the Ina Wave, which also reaches the right length along my taint. Meanwhile, the external stimulator on the Loki Wave is more suitable for someone who prefers fingers (plural), and at a longer length for their external stimulation, be they male or female. I know this from a discussion with a former female co-worker who said that she preferred the Loki Wave over the Ina Wave for her vaginal pleasure.

Also, when placed side by side, I found the Ina Wave can go a tad deeper inside than the Loki Wave. So that slighter depth plus that motion might very well land on my prostate in a way to be more stimulating. 

Even though this article has been a long time coming, I hope that the next time you consider buying one of the two, give the other a look. Because the one marketed to bodies of the opposite gender might actually be the one you're looking for. 

Trust me on this. Because remember, I have a history of discovering such things. 😉

Enter, Thrust, Throb, Cream + backstory

One beauty of having your own laptop keep in the solitude of your room is that you can be as much of a pervert about it as you want to be. Namely, through your wallpaper. For this is a screenshot of the wallpaper I had on my computer at the time my song "Enter, Thrust, Throb, Cream" came to mind.

It's a still from a NextDoor Studios scene in which Michael DelRay tops Scotty Zee. So that's Scotty Zee cute butt.

For me, sex is art. So while this photo does turn me on, I don't stop and jerk off to this pic. I turn on my laptop see the nature-created artistry of a cock inside a nice wanting ass, and get to work.

However, on one particular day, I got up to take a break from a project. In doing so, I closed the web browser and all open windows, leaving me to see just that wallpaper. Suddenly, a subconscious thought came to me. I can tell it was my subconscious because as it reached my conscious mind, its volume slowly increased. It was 4 words said rhythmically describing what was going on in the picture, and the result. I knew that because while I couldn't instantly figure out what the middle 2 words were, I knew the first word was "Enter" and the last was "Cream" - 2 words I use very often when describing the process of sex.

As I thought more about it, I realized the other 2 words were to describe actions that fascinate me during sex. Knowing how I've always been fascinated how penetrative sex is a simple thrusting back and forth that brings one so much euphoric physical pleasure, it should be no surprise how the next word was "Thrust". Followed by the next fascinating thing during sex is the various times a guy's cock will throb as he's getting closer and closer to orgasm and ejaculation. Making the other word "Throb".

With the words now set in their rhythm, next came describing each word's part in sex from the entering of the penis to the ejaculation(s) that often concludes it. And this is the end result a cappella:

Which Responds Best To The Sounds of Sex?...Lovense or We-Vibe

Even before my exploration into interactive sex toys with Kiiroo, I have always wanted my vibrating sex toys to vibrate in sync with the sounds of sex in the porn I was watching. Mainly those toys that I use anally, which are many.

So when the technology for such vibrating sex toys evolved to having app connections that make the toy vibrate to music, it was only a matter of time before I put my own spin on it.

You see, I was never impressed by the idea of a sex toy vibrating to music. Probably because for me, I want the vibrations to be connected to who I'm fantasizing about. So as much as I'm a Prince fan, and love the song "It" as a song to play during sex, I'm not going to masturbate to its vibrations because I never had a masturbation fantasy about Prince. 

I will admit though that song does work well for that sex toy feature.

Anyway, it took awhile, but eventually I realized that while I didn't want to use music for the syncing vibration with audio feature like it was marketed, I could practice what I always preach....I came up with my own way of using that feature.

The idea probably came to me thanks to Kiiroo. For their Titan syncing with porn is pretty much what I was looking to do with the sync-with-audio feature of my anal toys. Luckily, I had 2 anal sex toys to test my theory with. The Hush by Lovense and the Vector by We-Vibe.

So what were the results of my tests?

Trust me, I love both brands and butt toys. However, when it comes to the sounds of sex, Lovense beats We-Vibe by a wide margin. Hence why I now also own a Lovense Edge, which was after the Hush that I used for this video:

In my testing, I found what gives Lovense the edge is their sensitivity feature. That sensitivity feature makes it more responsive to non-musical sounds, such as those in the title of my compilation: body slaps, bed squeaks, and moans. That is why you were hearing me moan over the sounds of the video. I was feeling (and enjoying) the Hush vibrating in my butt in perfect synchronicity to those sounds in the porn. Hence how I wound up coming close to the same time as Marco Paris.

With We-Vibe, whether the sounds of sex are in an audio track or by using the microphone to hear porn you have playing, you can see the app picking up the sound. However, the app picking it up does not transfer as well to the Vector, if at all. And the changing it from "bass", "mid-range", or "treble" didn't change that much. I figured if anything that the Vector would pick up the sexual sounds if you set it to react to mid-range or treble, but no such luck. For it seems the We-Connect app is meant for picking up the bass, mid-range, and treble of music only.

This review is not condemning We-Vibe's Vector. It is just simply pointing out that it's audio-responses do not respond to the sounds of sex. Everything great I said about the We-Vibe Vector in my initial review of it still remains true.

With that, I leave you with the video compilation that I made for the purpose of this test. Appropriately titled "Body Slaps, Bed Squeaks & Moans". 

https://1drv.ms/v/s!AklovIuy4VIKgbZdX-5_R21xPtOx9w?e=Q8pNRG