Blog Rep For Truth...TESTED

Last week, someone I was involved with for about a month found himself to be in what he alleges was a racist incident at a NYC bar. This person who is White alleges that he went into the bar which he frequents with no problem. He then alleges realizing that his friend who is half-Hispanic was nowhere to be seen. He said that he went outside to find his friend, and his friend was standing outside claiming that the bouncer said that he wouldn't let him in. This is the point when the person I was involved with realized that there was a bouncer at the door. He alleges that he politely asked the bouncer why his friend wasn't allowed in. With no explanation given beyond the words, "He's not allowed in", the person I was involved with took it as a racist incident. With that being the case, he said that he then got in the bouncer's face and said, "Ha!"
This was allegedly countered by the bouncer punching the person I was involved with in the chest. And 2 more punches to the chest after that.

The person I was involved with suggested that I write a post telling of this incident. Now, with racism being a possible motive as to why the half-Hispanic friend was not let into this bar, you would think I would be all over this story. But while I'm telling this much of the story, what is absent is my detail-orientated style of blogging by using names, photographs, and links. With my style of blogging, this story could put me on the map of the blogsphere more than I already am. So why am I refraining from doing this story in such a fashion when I have all the tools? It's because of something I heard Judge Judy once say...

...I LOVE Judge Judy. And I recall in one episode, she told a plaintiff that as a plaintiff, "when you come into court, you must come into court with clean hands."

The problem is that while this bar might have been practicing racism, the person I was involved with is the same person who was the "escape artist drinker" to inspire my recent post, "Socializers & Escape...Um, Artists", and he and his friends had already been drinking elsewhere when they arrived with him admitting to me that he had been a little intoxicated. So along with his getting in that bouncer's face yelling "Ha!", I have firsthand knowledge of his belligerence after drinking. For me and him have had verbal battles over the phone because of him giving me bitchy attitudes for no good reason. And God only knows what situations have transpired in his past because of his belligerence after drinking that he knows he can't honestly tell me he's in the right about. Regardless, there's a history that I know of personally that I can't in good faith support his story.

His bitchy attitudes after drinking always result in him needing to apologize to me after, hence the price of Regret I spoke of in "Socializers & Escape...Um, Artists". Now, one part of my Christian upbringing that I still try to maintain is forgiveness. And God forgives us repeatedly. And I try to do the same. But the fact is am not God. I am a human, and that gives me a limit to what I can and should tolerate. And with that limit, I can't keep putting myself in the scenario to forgive someone when they are repeatedly apologizing for the same crime in such a short span of time. And in this guy's case, it was him repeatedly apologizing for some verbally abusive outburst after some level of drinking.

In any case, because of the drinking he did that night and his drinking with a side order of apologies that he kept serving me, the guy I was involved with did not have the "clean hands" Judge Judy spoke of. Far from it.  His hands wreak of alcohol, and not the good cleaning kind you find in hand sanitizer. Therefore as a writer, representing his side of the story would be me putting my blog's reputation for truth on the line. And the same would hold true for an attorney agreeing to represent him in any court case that could have been conjured up because of that incident.

There is a reason I have never been sued. Especially when I write a post and either email or tweet the person I am speaking of in the post. It's because the truth I present is undeniable. So it should be no surprise that with using the word "alleges" as many times as I did in that 1st paragraph and this guy's history of belligerence after drinking that I would chance this blog's reputation for telling the truth by telling of that incident in any greater detail.

So with my blog's reputation for truth tested....I do believe that I have PASSED with flying colors.

Write That Down #37

I've had many people that I've felt the need to part ways with. Now, while going to the extent of saying "you're dead to me" is pretty harsh, it is sadly sometimes necessary. And this is usually most necessary when someone takes your kind heart for granted, and refuses to do the humane thing by giving nowhere near the same capacity in return. Hence why my latest "Write That Down" quote reads:

Becoming dead to me is easy. Just show me that you are dumb enough to be dead inside to someone who is alive with caring as I am. A case where opposites DO NOT attract. And if they do attract, they soon repel.




What makes it easy is the fact that regardless of how disheartening and spirit-breaking the person's wrong-doing may be, I must survive. And those of you who have been in such a predicament, must do the same for yourselves.

Socializers & Escape...Um, Artists

Look at that! Isn't it beautiful? The beautiful colors of a bar.

The properly placed bottles to show off the gorgeous variety of shapes and colors of the liquors. And in some bars, beautifully colored lighting around those bottles meant to enhance those shapes and colors.

Sad thing is there is a fool born not every minute, but every second that falls prey to those ingredients of appeal.

A couple of weeks ago, a friend had a birthday celebration at his place. We were all drinking, but after the cab ride we took to attempt to go to a bar, I found myself very much wasted the same way I was in "Fucked Up & Fucked So". And like in that blog post, I found my body rejecting the alcohol by constantly vomiting. Considering the fact of how I can actually put away a good number of drinks if I want, but choose not to, this new incident of drunkenness made me ask myself as to why when I get that wasted can my body no longer hold in alcohol, meanwhile others hold in the liquors and end up doing something stupid, like being belligerent to those in their circle of friends and loved ones.

Well, I may have very well figured it out. It's probably because I unlike them am a social drinker, while others are drinking for the reason most people do ---out of escapism.

There are sometimes when I'll go to a bar and won't drink at all. I just simply went there to get out of the house, get the energy of other people around me, and nothing more. If I do drink, I'll have an attitude similar to the one I've had in most of my drug experimentations of "well, since it's there...whatever." Then I'll proceed to ask for one of the most simple drinks or weakest beer. I do this because I'm not drinking for the sake of escapism. And I think my vomiting is for the same reason. It's because since I'm not using alcohol for escapism's sake, my body has no desire to hold on to a strong liquor.

You see, I am no different than anybody else when it comes to having problems. I have aplenty. But unlike aplenty of people, I don't run to alcohol, drugs, and/or even sex as tools for escape. If I do use sex, nowadays it's in the form of masturbation, because I've reached a point of maturity where I don't like to involve others in my form of temporarily getting away. I already know others suffer like I do. But to avoid bad karma, I have no need to show myself living by the credo "misery loves company" by using another person's presence to drink, snort, shoot up, pill-pop, fuck, suck, or lick the pain away. I'd much rather suffer, pray and figure out my way to a brighter tomorrow alone, because whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. And having the strength to go it alone without a controlled substance or sexual intercourse as a crutch makes you even stronger.

That previous paragraph may make me seem as if I think I'm some kind of saint. Trust me, if you've read of my sexual exploits, you know that I am far from that. But I have made my mistakes and have learned from them. Such as using sex with someone as a crutch.

Whether your crutch is sex, drugs, and/or alcohol, there's a reason to rethink using these crutches. If more people consider these reasons, they wouldn't use them as much. Or maybe not at all:

1) Blackouts - It's no fun being unable to recall your actions. Because if you don't (or can't) become self-aware of your bad history by saying you lived it, you are doomed to repeat it;

2) Hangovers - that headache after heavy drinking is no fun either. Especially for an Aries like myself. Since the body part that rules an Aries is the head, a headache to us is like Kryptonite to Superman. And the worst the headache, the more weakening the Kryptonite is to the Superman we think we are.

In all seriousness, the real problem here is that while social drinkers like myself are more likely to throw up the alcohol, thereby lessen the impact of a hangover, those who drink out of escapism will be more likely to suffer a hangover because their bodies hold on to the alcohol. For the simple reason that the alcohol is their believed tool of escaping their problem. When in all actuality it's not. This leads to why before you think of getting wasted, you need to ask your problems...

3) Going somewhere? - Because the answer will be an echoing "NO!!!!" All due, Einstein, to the undeniable fact that whatever problem you called yourself running from,...it's still going to be there when you come down from your high or booze binge. And in your foolishness, you've actually added

4) Regrets to your list.  Giving yourself more problems by all the apologies you have to now give out for what you may have said  or did because of your drunken lushy state....Congratulations, Dumb-ass!!!

What I have said here may seem harsh, but it is a harshness that's necessary. And I know this because I have used it on myself. In my moments of drunkenness, I have lost memories of fragments of time, my vomiting lessened the impact of a hangover, and do have regrets because while I may not have become a belligerent drunk, I do regret putting my friends in a situation where they had to take care of me by doing things like helping me to simply walk out of a bar. So the only thing on the list that I didn't have to deal with is me deluding myself that my problems were going anywhere.

Now, are all these pretty shapes and colors worth the list of prices one must pay for trying to run away from the problems life might throw your way?

Next time you go to a bar, take a drug, or use a lay to attempt to be an escape...um, artist, you might want to think about that list.

Secret To A Good Blowjob? (ANSWERED)

Dunkin St. Laurent, author of "Dunkin's Playground" recently asked:

"Can you nut from head?"

While I to date gave the only answer, this leads to my follow-up question:

What do you think is the secret to a good blowjob, meaning one that'll make you come?

When I first posted this question yesterday, I said that after the 1st response that I'll give an answer to my own question. First off, it's a shame that after all the hits this post has gotten so far, that it was a woman who gave an answer. So kudos to the woman who commented.

Anyway, while enthusiasm and a love of doing it are components to a good blowjob, they are not the secrets to a good one. Because you can be enthused and like doing it all you want, but if you don't do it properly, you are of no good to the recipient. So if it takes forever (or never) for him to shoot a load from you giving a blowjob, lack of skill could be part of the reason why.

While it is called "sucking dick", just putting your mouth around the cock isn't going to do much but bore him. I know because that's what it does for me. Yet too many guys wrap their mouth around the dick and nothing more. I think with so few guys lacking the proper skill, most guys you hear moaning in an orgy, sex party, or porn scene are doing so because they taught themselves that this is what's expected of them when someone attempts to give them head. Well, I'm big on being honest with myself. And if you suck at giving head, don't expect a hard-on, don't expect moaning, don't expect a rubbing of your head....because it's not fucking happening!

The secret to making a guy come from getting a blowjob is to use all parts of the mouth. Along with your lips and saliva, use a little suction to let him know you're trying to suck that man-milk produced in his balls with a thick straw called "his dick", and also use the somehow most ignored part of the mouth needed to make the best of blowjobs----the tongue.

It might surprise you to know that even though you have one, you might not have realized that the main point of sensation for a blowjob or actual intercourse is the head of the penis, especially in uncut males. But even with that being the case, you need to work the shaft as well, with your lips and tongue giving it a good massage. But do take NOTE:

Any guy trying to shove his entire shaft down your throat is overcompensating for the lack of power he has in his character.

Now back to the importance of the tongue and the head as your target. You need to tongue the head of the penis by licking it, sucking it, and slurping on it, while making the head your main focus point for combining your lips, tongue, and suction. But the part of the head that really needs the attention of your tongue and saliva is the frenulum of the penis.

When I first became sexually active, I thought that this was a sensitive area for only uncut men like myself. However, I've learned over time by the throbbing sensations and eruptions of jizz that I've caused by playing with this area on circumcised men, that it's a sensitive area on them as well.

So now you have the secret to creating a nice man-milk bath for yourself. Or (if you swallow) a protein shake.

Now, if I missed anything, feel free to answer here or in the comments section.