Come See Me @ RUD: Family Affairs

As I mentioned it in a previous post, this is a reminder to my fans and readers living or vacationing near or around New York City of my appearance at this Thursday's "Red Umbrella Diaries: Family Affairs". I will be presenting a piece telling of my Mom learning about my porn persona and the connection between that and her dreams for me. It will be entitled, "What She Had In Mind".

Last week, while visiting the Red Umbrella Project website's posting of the event, I came across 2 comments. Both of which spoke negatively of me without even knowing me. I tried to walk away from the matter considering how often I went to the website and never even saw the 1st of the comments until 2 weeks after it was posted, so I thought no one really cared. However, I then realized that (1)just because I missed seeing the comments so long after their posting, doesn't mean that others didn't, and (2)we live in a time where individual thinking is a rarity, so people may listen to these people spewing hatred and jealousy. So feel free to go to the link, and see the insightful and intellectual rebuttal that I've become known for.  Then come Thursday, I hope to see you at "Red Umbrella Diaries: Family Affairs".

If you can't make it Thursday, don't fret. Because come next Wednesday on December 8th (as also previously mentioned), I will be appearing at The Will Clark Show featuring Porno Bingo. More on that in next week's reminder. Until then....

Do you believe in God? And regardless of your answer, would you DATE someone whose answer is the OPPOSITE of yours? I will give my answer after the 1st reply.

Since I got my 1st response here, I will now give my reply.

I long ago in a blog post revealed that I do believe in God, and chastised gays who give up that belief just because they come out as gay. What I didn't reveal is whether or not I would date someone who was an atheist.

The answer to if I could date an atheist is NO. It is not about me feeling superior as some might want to think, but there are some things that form who you are so much that having someone in your life that doesn't share that makes the relationship doomed to failed before it even begins. And I feel belief in God is one of those things.

My belief in God is what motivates the stands that I take, and while I know there are atheists who are able to take those same stands, I feel there's a passion, drive, and commitment to my convictions that my faith in God gives me that being an atheist would not. And for that reason, I can't see myself sharing a life with someone whose motivated by believing the standards and abilities they have are based totally on THEM.

For instance, I have a friend who is an atheist who said that people thanking God at award shows are lessening the importance of their part in what they've created. Well, people who believe in God have a degree of humbleness that makes us believe that it's not all about us. We believe the simple fact that we are able to wake up is a gift from God. So the fact we can breathe on our own, show off our talents and skills, and receive accolades for it are all gifts to be thankful for - and not to another mere human, but first and foremost to a higher power. By those who believe in God, an atheist thinking that those things all his/her doing is a viewpoint of arrogance, even if that atheist's normal behavior pattern shows the contrary. Hence why some God-believers seem fearful of an atheist's lack of belief in God. While for some, it may be based on a feeling of superiority. But for believers like myself (because if arrogance isn't my flaw, I do have others), it is based on my fearing the day that a situation arises that will force an atheist to reconsider his/her position. And I'm always hoping that it's not too drastic a situation.

For I have enough things to worry about in this world that can endanger the well-being of my significant other. Worrying about his basic belief system catching up to him by a higher power can't be one of them.

My blog may make me seem like an open book....but maybe I'm not, so ask away ;-)

Write That Down #29

I think I've made it quite clear that I'm not a fan of the Logo TV show, "The A-List: New York". But in the small amount of the show that I've seen, I do know that Austin has a long-distance relationship, and claims to be committed.

Well, he's not the first to be delusional enough to make such a claim, and sadly he won't be the last. Nor is it just gay couples fooling themselves to think that such a set-up can make for a worthwhile relationship. Straight couples do it as well. It's part of what contributes to the high divorce rate.

Knowing this, why do people put up with this? It's because they so desperately want to say, "I'm taken", "I'm spoken for", or "I'm married" that they'll settle for something that is doomed to fail. For in romantic relationships, the more time spent miles away in body, the more it makes you miles away in heart, mind, and soul. For the idea of "absence makes the heart grow fonder" was not meant for romantic relationships where you spend months (or days that add up to months) apart. I mean, these people need to ask themselves, How can you love each other if that being apart makes you not have a home together in the first place, OR you have a home together, but one or both of you are hardly at home?

With that in mind, my latest "Write That Down" quote is not just for gay relationships, but for ALL RELATIONSHIPS. It reads:

If the majority of your time does not have you in the same city as me, lessening the conflict of us getting together, then we are NOT in a relationship. The statement that "we're a couple" and/or the ring on your finger is just you being a guy/girl for show. For how can we love each other if that being apart makes us not have a home together in the first place, OR we have a home together, but we are separately hardly at home? We can't!

Recently on "1 Girl, 5 Gays", one question was, "Who would you do?" with the choices being 50 Cent and Jay-Z. Most of the guys answered 50 Cent. Is it an extreme display of a lack of individual thinking to not realize that NEITHER is an option?

Recently on "1 Girl, 5 Gays", one question was, "Who would you do?" with the choices being 50 Cent and Jay-Z. Most of the guys answered 50 Cent.Is it an extreme display of a lack of individual thinking to not realize that NEITHER is an option?

Answer here