This quote for my "Write That Down" category, I believe is so self explanatory that a backstory is unnecessary. However, you will be able to gather the backstory soon enough. So write this down....
I don't believe in the old saying of "keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer." Because there may come a time when you'll need one arm to lift up the friend, but in the very same breath, use the other arm to push the enemy down his long overdue trip to hell. At that time, you'll need both - friend and enemy, just as close.Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Sex Worker Literati
This past Wednesday morning, I received an email about 8:45 AM. It was from Audacia Ray. What was so strange about this was the fact that I at the time I received this email I was working on the draft for my post, "Including The Ladies" to the point that I had already mentioned her.
I told Audacia about this and she replied with, "I guess my bloggy sense was tingling!"
It turns out that since August, Audacia has been co-hosting a reading/performance series called, Sex Worker Literati with author and editor David Henry Sterry. And on Thursday, December 3rd, they are having a rent boy and gay porn star night, and an invitation was extended to me be do a reading or performance.
I'm quite honored to be asked, because it shows that my plan to be recognize for my talents like writing is going beyond my time in blue movies. In addtion, knowing that another guest inlcudes Jeffrey Escoffier, the author of the recently published book "Bigger Than Life: The History of Gay Porn Cinema from Beefcake to Hardcore" is going to be there doesn't hurt either, who I saw before at the LGBT Center, where I boldly asked questions.
I can tell you now that I don't plan to do just an ordinary reading. I want my appearance there to be this blog coming to life for you, so I hope to use some interactive media, and hold your interest. Maybe even more so than I do in a regular post that you read here.
So MARK YOUR CALENDARS for:
SEX WORKER LITERATI
Thursday, December 3, 2009
8:00pm - 10:00pm
@Happy Ending
302 Broome Street
(between Forsyth and Eldridge)
New York City
21 and up + FREE
Please come out and support as a portion of proceeds from the bar supports sex workers rights groups.
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Fight The People (With Love)
There were many signs that my fun with porn had come to a close. One of those times was when I was so ecstatic to see my reply answered with a "Yes" to Reed McGowan asking for people to be in this music video. What made me ecstaticwas that I was glad for the departure. Furthermore, even after talking to Reed on the phone, I had no idea of how much of a departure this video would allow me to make.
I was asked to bring a change of clothes. One, a suit if I had it, and the other, something a lot more casual. Still, I was so caught up in doing something unrelated to porn, that I didn't see the transformation that was going to take place coming at me, until I did my change of clothes.
I went from being a solemn & uptight nerd, to a happy & partying bi-guy.
The difference between the change in video and who I am in reality is that while in the video, I went from being one extreme to the other, but in real-life, I'm some degree of both and more 24/7. I'm quite the chameleon.
I am very proud of my small part in this video, as it has a big message.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Including The Ladies
It has come to my attention that I may have a good number of female readers. Sadly, it may seem strange to some gay men that catering to my female readers as well is now such a big concern of mine. What gave birth to this was because when a woman commented on my blog recently, she seemed worried about my being offended by her being a reader. I felt she should have no need to have such a concern, and any gay/bi male who makes a woman feel that way is a malevolent dipshit.
I first discovered I had a female reader about 3 years ago on my old blog "Tre Xavier's Blog" when I wrote about my attendance at a bi-sex party, and my first taste and pleasing entry into a woman's pussy. I haven't had another female come forward until about a year ago. And I cannot forget also last year, when NakedCity.comwas in existence, Audacia Ray named my blog 1 of "6 Pornstar Blogs Worth Reading". Still, I'm thinking at this time that female readers are a rarity for my blog.
HOWEVER this past month, 3 more women have come forward. (1) a comment last month on my post about my DP candidates, while (2) & (3) were discoverd from an online chat with one of my female Facebook friends who told me that she AND her friend are fans of my blog. That's why I said in a recent Facebook update, "....Maybe if there's 4, there's more."
This now makes me wonder that if this total of 5 women who have come forward about reading my blog, then how many more women are out there reading my blog, yet my writing isn't catering to. Therefore, ignoring how these women as contributors to whatever notoriety my blog may have. Shame on me!!!!
The "shame on you" finger I'm giving to myself is the same one I've repeatedly given to mainstream gay porn studios for not acknowledging their ethnic consumers with their so-white casting. I'm not going to be a hypocrite and act like I don't deserve that finger, because if I'm ignoring a part of my fanbase, I most certainly do.
While the majority of the time I talk about what guys I'm into and what I have or would like to do with them, Some gay men may also wonder why do I have female readers. That is a question that's easy to answer. For the same way that there are straight men turned on by lesbian sex, it's not far a stretch to believe that some straight women can be turned on by gay male sex. Possibly even more so in literary form, as women are more mentally stimulated, while men are more visually stimulated.
New readers may not be aware that (1)I'm a predominately gay bisexual, and (2)I am by no means foolish enough to be a hetero-phobe. Now, for those that can't handle my bisexuality, at least I'm not a gay-for-pay bitch in denial claiming I'm 100% straight when the proof is right in front of you of how I'm not. In other words, you should appreciate my honesty instead of condemning it. And for you hetero-phobes, you should appreciate heterosexuality as it is the sexual orientation that brought you into existence, therefore scoffing at it makes you a damn fool, because you're living a life of denial like a gay-for-pay porn actor. I brought up these facts about myself to show what may contribute to my appreciation of my female fanbase.
The abilities that nature has given women makes them a great addition to my fanbase, such as a woman's way of reasoning, her craving to communicate and exchange knowledge, not to mention the ability to bear children, an ability that many gay men probably envy, while I live in awe of it.
So to my female readers, I hope this post helps you to forgive my oversight as it explains why I honor you as well, and give you a great BIG THANKS for your continued support.
I first discovered I had a female reader about 3 years ago on my old blog "Tre Xavier's Blog" when I wrote about my attendance at a bi-sex party, and my first taste and pleasing entry into a woman's pussy. I haven't had another female come forward until about a year ago. And I cannot forget also last year, when NakedCity.comwas in existence, Audacia Ray named my blog 1 of "6 Pornstar Blogs Worth Reading". Still, I'm thinking at this time that female readers are a rarity for my blog. HOWEVER this past month, 3 more women have come forward. (1) a comment last month on my post about my DP candidates, while (2) & (3) were discoverd from an online chat with one of my female Facebook friends who told me that she AND her friend are fans of my blog. That's why I said in a recent Facebook update, "....Maybe if there's 4, there's more."
This now makes me wonder that if this total of 5 women who have come forward about reading my blog, then how many more women are out there reading my blog, yet my writing isn't catering to. Therefore, ignoring how these women as contributors to whatever notoriety my blog may have. Shame on me!!!!
The "shame on you" finger I'm giving to myself is the same one I've repeatedly given to mainstream gay porn studios for not acknowledging their ethnic consumers with their so-white casting. I'm not going to be a hypocrite and act like I don't deserve that finger, because if I'm ignoring a part of my fanbase, I most certainly do.
While the majority of the time I talk about what guys I'm into and what I have or would like to do with them, Some gay men may also wonder why do I have female readers. That is a question that's easy to answer. For the same way that there are straight men turned on by lesbian sex, it's not far a stretch to believe that some straight women can be turned on by gay male sex. Possibly even more so in literary form, as women are more mentally stimulated, while men are more visually stimulated.
New readers may not be aware that (1)I'm a predominately gay bisexual, and (2)I am by no means foolish enough to be a hetero-phobe. Now, for those that can't handle my bisexuality, at least I'm not a gay-for-pay bitch in denial claiming I'm 100% straight when the proof is right in front of you of how I'm not. In other words, you should appreciate my honesty instead of condemning it. And for you hetero-phobes, you should appreciate heterosexuality as it is the sexual orientation that brought you into existence, therefore scoffing at it makes you a damn fool, because you're living a life of denial like a gay-for-pay porn actor. I brought up these facts about myself to show what may contribute to my appreciation of my female fanbase.
The abilities that nature has given women makes them a great addition to my fanbase, such as a woman's way of reasoning, her craving to communicate and exchange knowledge, not to mention the ability to bear children, an ability that many gay men probably envy, while I live in awe of it. So to my female readers, I hope this post helps you to forgive my oversight as it explains why I honor you as well, and give you a great BIG THANKS for your continued support.
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