tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3324975298989504774.post1336959332751848926..comments2023-04-14T05:17:42.999-04:00Comments on L's X-Ray Vision: Sex Party Review: IncubusNYCLeNair Xavierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02611811854575645709noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3324975298989504774.post-39514555337964734762018-05-15T21:18:10.066-04:002018-05-15T21:18:10.066-04:00Thanks for this great run down of what’s happening...Thanks for this great run down of what’s happening for those of us into BDSM. It feels like every public space open for some real play has been closed and the limited events there are always are plagued with the really pushy old guys who have never seen the inside of the gym in their life. Old guys (I’m talking about guys who look like they are over 70 who are always totally nude and always rudely insert themselves the minute you start a scene with a boy and don’t take no for an answer. <br /><br />I wish there was an event space with strict rules where I could go and do a scene with people watching who don’t ruin the moment by just reaching in and grabbing what they want. I honestly don’t mind if some 80 year old guy is watching it’s just at that age nude without maintenance is a mood killer. Really that isn’t the real issue. As a Dom I can not allow a sub to totally submit if I can’t control what happens to him. So without some strict rules even the most basic scenes are a no go. <br /><br />It venues are going to let everyone in then they need to create taped off scene areas and rules which require the Dom to invite anyone to their scene. Without this system it’s not possible to “get kinky.” <br />I hope this makes sense. As a Dom I gave up on the events as they don’t have spaces or rules where I can do a scene and control what happens to the person submitting to me. No Dom will ever do anything with a sub when they can’t control what happens to the sub once he is restrained. So without strict invite only policy to scenes and scene spaces you won’t ever find anything beyond a dress up sex party. Kink is all power dynamic based. Without the Dom being able to control what happens to his sub nothing can happen. So a promoter needs to. Create a. Party with strict invite only into a scene and tape off some play spaces around a few of the big pieces of equipment. Once you create rules and a Dom can take control of a sub without grabby hands you will find the real deal starts popping up eveywhere. Without these rules it can’t be done and events are just dress up grabby sex parties. All it takes is basic rules and proctors to enforce them during the event. With that in place you will find what you are looking for. Trust me. Nobody is doing it these in NY anymore. Dallas has a good invite only party. They are common place in Berlin and sometimes in London. Without these rules that allow a Dom to control his sub it’s just a dress up Sex party. Let me know if anyone starts these again. These parties are epic!!!! Hope this helps. MASTER JAMES nyc220@icloud.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3324975298989504774.post-89015796049987869672018-04-15T01:05:47.568-04:002018-04-15T01:05:47.568-04:00Great review . Thank you . I’m bi as well and have...Great review . Thank you . I’m bi as well and have been wanting to go to a sex party at paddles , but haven’t made one yet. Would love to see you at one thoughAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17428351810775464943noreply@blogger.com